<\/p>\n <\/p>\n <\/p>\n <\/p>\n HOW TO MOVE ON AFTER YOU HEART IS BROKEN The first thing we are confronted with after a breakup is the plain old shock of it. We are literally gobsmacked. We find ourselves standing with our mouths open and arms hanging limply by our sides wondering what in the world just happened?\u00a0<\/em>Heartbreak can occur after six months in a relationship or many years! Breaking up hurts \u2014 and it hurts \u2014 bad<\/em>. And there is just no way of getting around that fact.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n After a breakup we can feel like we have failed. We feel unworthy and unlovable. We can worry that we\u2019ll never be with anyone<\/em>. Our worst fear is that there is no one out there for us. But I would counter that you just haven\u2019t found each other yet.<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/div>\n There is a game that we played as kids called \u201cWarmer, Warmer,\u201d<\/em> where one person hides an object while the other one has to find it. As the seeker gets closer to the object you say, \u201cWarmer, warmer! As they get farther from it, you say, \u201cCooler, cooler.\u201d If they start moving farther from it you say, \u201cCold as ice! Cold as the arctic! Frozen as the freezer!\u201d But, if they are standing right next to it, you yell, \u201cYou are hot! You are on fire! You\u2019re burning up!\u201d until finally the seeker touches the hidden object.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n Breaking up can be like that. When we meet someone and we fall in love, it\u2019s definitely a warmer, warmer moment<\/em>. It might not be the exact right person yet<\/em>, but we are getting closer. These relationships along the way help us grow and learn. So, even though it does<\/em> hurt, this different way of looking at it may help you let go and move on more easily, not looking at the breakup as a mistake, but rather a step along the path<\/strong>.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n As the old adage says, when one door closes another one opens<\/em>. This is important to remember, because in those first days and weeks while you are reeling and refinding your balance again, you can hang on to that phrase like a lifeline. It may not give much solace at first, but it is a spiritual truth, and remembering this will steady you. Natural law says: nature abhors a vacuum.<\/em> Meaning, once you are truly able to release the old relationship, new love can find you again.<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/div>\n Finally, every relationship defines better and better what you want and don\u2019t want in a partner. Every time you engage with someone \u2014 even just one date<\/em> \u2014 you learn a little more about yourself and what matters to you. All of this will help you recognize your true partner that moment when you meet.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n Diana Lang is a spiritual teacher and author of OPENING TO MEDITATION \u00a0<\/em><\/strong>www.DianaLang.com<\/em>\u00a0<\/strong>![\"warmer,](\"https:\/\/dianalang.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/06\/warmer-warmer-300x135.jpg\")
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